About Master R...


Like so many of our visitors, I have been this way since I was a child. I was a classic case. I loved to be the one tied up for cowboys and Indians. I remember volunteering to be both the torturer and tortured, in our endless games of Space Invader.

When I was a young man, it was free love in Greenwich Village in the 1960's for me. I began to get involved in the NYC SM world. It was a very different world. It was more a world based on the teachings of the Marquis De Sade than the safer, kinder SM that we have come to know and love today. People really got hurt. People did literally get sold into the slave trade around the globe. But there were great people and places; Belle Du Jour, Mistress Natasha, Uncle Sam's Cane and Umbrella Shop, El Chalet to mention just a few, and I got to know my fair share of them.

When I entered their world, I began working as a professional submissive. I learned and learned. I was living in NYC, I was nineteen, it was 1969. I lasted until a co-worker tied in a shower by the two women he was serving for the night, was scalded so badly that he required hospitalization. The man I worked for, Silver Jim, saw little wrong in this. piggy had done what he was told to do. I was expected to do the same. I quit.

Perhaps the most important part of my experience with Silver Jim was that he was my entrance-way into a traditional SM training chateau in the Connecticut River Valley. That's where you went prior to about 1980, if you wanted high level, skilled, SM. There were no Houses of Domination, like those now found in the back of every major US city paper. There were, throughout the country, five or six small chateaux like the one I attended, and several more scattered throughout Europe. Each chateau had a recognizable style. There was some interaction between them all. With so few places to go, and it being so hard just to find them, let alone gain entrance, serious devotion ruled. I did my time as a very devoted slave, to Silver Jim and to the "family" of my chateau. I learned from great Masters and Mistresses; I became a tremendous slave.

In 1978, I met a woman in Albuquerque named Regan. Regan understood, from my stories of NYC submission, that I knew a great deal about pain. Regan was a tremendous masochist, and she told me that she could tell I was a Master. I had simply to discover, accept and understand those drives in myself. Regan made it clear that she would be glad to help me through this process. Many, many years of thought, questions and comprehension began at that point.

As the years accumulated, I thought more and more about the importance of the chateau system, as I watched its last remnants seem to tear away and disappear. As I got to know the young Madame, I gradually realized that I had met a person who not only had the makings of a world class Dominatrix, but who had the vision and comprehension to join me in starting a new chateau. The Country House was born. It was the precursor to La Domaine.

When we began The Country House, I thought I was a sexual sophisticate. As I began to see more and more of the scope of the human psyche, the varieties of human nature that were walking through our doors, as I began to partake in people's most intimate fetishes, desires and visions, I realized how great a conceit that was. Now, twelve years into the most intense experience a deviant could ever have, I know I have learned an enormous amount about SM and its oh so many aspects, perhaps as much as any one person has ever known (with the possible exception of The Madame), yet every day at Esemar seems to bring a powerful new insight, an unveiling, a gift and awakening thoughts.

La Domaine Esemar also brought me The Raven. Just before The Madame was ready to move on in her personal life, we began training an exceptional Mistress In Training, Domina Raven, perhaps our most exceptional Mistress In Training in ten years. The Raven brought her persona, her psyche, her insights and her desires to Esemar. However, after nearly two years, it became time for Raven to pursue her many other interests and talents. This began our search for a new Head Mistress. I thoroughly enjoyed the most remarkable procession of power-filled women visiting from around the world. They came from Thailand, Stuttgart, Washington DC, Boston, Atlanta, Orlando, NYC and even exotic Poughkeepsie. These Dominas all brought a new excitement to La Domaine. In the end, we were thrilled to select Mistress Collette, who rapidly became a very special addition to the remarkable lineage of La Domaine Esemar Head Mistresses.

My life seems to be a continuing exploration of this unique sexual aspect of who we are, and how we got to be who we are. I feel privileged to have this experience called La Domaine Esemar, privileged to have all these people opening up their lives and offering their devotion. I intend to make this experience continue for many years. I hope as many of you reading this as possible can come and share in what happens here. After all these years and experiences, I can truthfully say, I have never known a place as amazing as Esemar.

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